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Hey guys! How are you all doing?
Today, I want to share some of the negative things people have said to me about my natural hair.
I believe most of us naturalistas have heard the good, the bad and the downright ugly comments about our hair from friends, colleagues, co-workers and even family members, especially when we first started our natural hair journey.
I believe that going natural, or choosing to remain natural, should be entirely your own decision. What other people think or say about your hair shouldn’t determine how you feel about it.
Personally, I never allowed these negative comments to discourage me. If anything, they made me even more determined to embrace my natural hair and stand by my decision.
Here are 15 negative comments I’ve received:
15 negative things people said about my natural hair
1. “If I were your boyfriend, I would have broken up with you because of your hair.”
Imagine being told that someone would end a relationship because of your hairstyle. It is incredible how something as personal as natural hair can become a reason for someone to question your attractiveness or worth.
2. “I will buy a chemical relaxer for you. I think you can’t afford one.”
This comment suggested that the only reason I was wearing my natural hair was because I couldn’t afford a relaxer. It never occurred to the person that perhaps I actually wanted to wear my hair naturally.
3. “You will soon get tired of your natural hair.”
People seemed convinced that wearing natural hair was just a phase. But why assume that someone will eventually get tired of something they have deliberately chosen?
4. “Your hair looks too untidy because it isn’t slicked down like relaxed hair.”
Natural hair doesn’t always lie flat, and it doesn’t have to. Our hair has texture, volume and personality. Not every hairstyle needs to be slicked down to look presentable.
5. “Those hairstyles you see online, like Bantu knot-outs and twist-outs, are sew-in weaves. Your hair can never look like that.”
This was particularly interesting because it suggested that natural hair couldn’t achieve the styles I admired. Twist-outs and Bantu knot-outs are real styling techniques that can create beautiful results on natural hair.

6. “Your hair won’t grow.”
This is one of the misconceptions about natural hair that I find particularly frustrating. Natural hair grows, just like other hair types. Sometimes shrinkage makes it appear shorter, and length retention can require patience and consistent care.
7. “Don’t you have money to go to the salon?”
Apparently, choosing to care for your own hair at home meant you couldn’t afford a salon visit. But doing your own hair can be a choice, not a financial limitation.
8. “Is that an afro? That’s old school. People don’t do that anymore.”
An afro is not outdated. Natural hair has been beautiful for generations, and there is no reason to abandon a hairstyle simply because someone thinks it is no longer fashionable.
9. “Don’t come to my house with natural hair.” (It was a joke, though.)
Even when comments are made jokingly, they can still make you wonder why your natural appearance is considered something to be embarrassed about.
10. “Don’t ever wear your hair out. It’s not nice. Always put on wigs or use extensions to braid or twist.”
Why should natural hair always need to be covered? Wigs, extensions and braids can be lovely styling options, but wearing your own hair out should be just as acceptable.

11. “Your hair looks weird.”
Weird according to whom? Natural hair comes in different textures, shapes and densities. Something unfamiliar to one person can be completely normal and beautiful to another.
12. “You need a lot of makeup to accentuate your look with that hair.”
This comment seemed to suggest that natural hair somehow made my appearance less attractive unless I wore more makeup. Hair should not determine how much makeup someone feels they need to wear.
13. “You are only limited to styles like cornrows and African threading.”
Natural hair offers so many styling possibilities. From twist-outs and braid-outs to Bantu knots, puffs, afros and protective styles, there is far more variety than people sometimes realise.
14. “Why are you using fruits and kitchen ingredients on your hair? They’re meant to be eaten.”
Natural hair care has a long history of using ingredients from nature. Of course, not every kitchen ingredient is suitable for every person’s hair or scalp, but that doesn’t mean every natural hair remedy is pointless.
15. “You are wasting your time, money and energy on that hair. Is it worth it?”
Yes, caring for natural hair takes time and effort. But so does caring for any hair type. The important thing is whether the routine works for you and whether you enjoy your hair.
What these comments taught me about wearing natural hair
Looking back, these comments say a lot about the expectations people have about hair, beauty and appearance.
For some people, relaxed hair was the standard of what neat hair should look like. Others assumed that natural hair was difficult, unattractive, old-fashioned or simply a temporary phase.
But natural hair doesn’t have to meet everybody else’s expectations.
It can be worn in an afro, stretched, braided, twisted, tucked away or left out. You can use products, experiment with different techniques and find a routine that suits your lifestyle.
And you don’t need to justify your decision to wear your hair naturally.

Natural hair is not for everybody, and that’s okay
I don’t believe everyone has to go natural. Relaxed hair, natural hair, wigs, braids and weaves are all personal choices.
What I do believe is that people should be able to make those choices without being made to feel inferior.
If you love your natural hair, wear it proudly. If you prefer another hairstyle, that’s your choice too.
The problem is not having a preference. The problem is making someone feel that their hair is not good enough because it doesn’t match yours.
Originally published in 2017 and updated in November 2026 with refreshed content and photographs.




















