15 negative things people said about my natural hair

Hey guys, how are you all doing? I want to share some of the worst things people have said to me about my hair. I think most of us naturalistas have also heard the good, the bad and ugly things concerning our hair from friends, colleagues, coworkers, family etc especially when we just started out.

I believe going or keeping natural hair should be your own decision and what others say or think about it shouldn’t bother you. I didn’t allow myself to be discouraged by the negative statements but it just made me dogmatic about my hair.

  1. If I were your boyfriend, I would have broken up with you because of your hair.
  2. I will buy a chemical relaxer for you, I think you can’t afford one.
  3. You will soon get tired of your natural hair.
  4. Your hair looks too untidy (because is not slicked down like relaxed hair)
  5. Those hairstyles (referring to bantu knots out, twist outs etc) you see online are sew in weaves, your hair can never be like that.
  6. Your hair won’t grow.
  7. Don’t you have money to go the salon?
  8. Is that an afro? That’s old school, people don’t do that anymore.
  9. Don’t come to my house with natural hair. (It was a joke though)
  10. Don’t ever wear your hair out, is not nice, always put on wigs or use extensions to braid or twist.
  11. Your hair looks weird.
  12. You need a lot of makeup to accentuate your look with that hair.
  13. You are only limited to styles like cornrows and African threading.
  14. Why are you using fruits and kitchen ingredients on your hair, is meant to be eaten.
  15. You are wasting your time, money and energy on that hair, is it worth it?

    What are the negative things you have heard about your hair? Have you ever felt discouraged because of what others think of your hair? Please drop your comments in the comment section. Thanks for reading

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    82 responses to “15 negative things people said about my natural hair”

    1. dbeautifuldreams Avatar
      dbeautifuldreams

      Oh my….. people can be rude…… your hair is lovely!!!! I appreciate your post and your willingness to share.

      Liked by 1 person

      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Yes they can be, thanks so much for the compliment and your kind words.

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    2. Aanuolutomiwa Avatar

      I’ve tried and still trying to careless about other peoples opinion of me except dt of my hubby

      Liked by 1 person

      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Others opinion will only hurt you, so far you aren’t doing anything wrong, just ignore.

        Liked by 1 person

    3.  Avatar
      Anonymous

      Never mind any of thr discouraging comnents,u only are responsible 4 ur happiness.going natural is d best

      Liked by 1 person

      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Thanks for the encouragement dear, I don’t anymore. Yes, going natural is the best.

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    4. BeautyByWanji Avatar
      BeautyByWanji

      I have natural hair to and its so annoying that people always want to change my hair !! Yet I’m so comfortable with it and in it !!! You have beautiful hair ✌ great post✌💜✌

      Liked by 2 people

      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        #Teamnatural… Yeah, that’s true, sometimes they will make you feel like keeping natural hair is a crime and is not society standard. Am also proud of my hair. Thanks for stopping by.

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    5. Natural Muse Avatar

      I’ve had ‘friends’ say “You still got an Afro? When do you ever do your hair” And the worst was when a friend and I were thinking about starting a YouTube channel and she said that I would have to wear a wig when we’re recording 🤔 I was like hold up, what you mean, my hair is pretty nice thank you very much. But I never let anyone dictate how I wear MY hair. I never really get offended.

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      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        I get that a lot too…. And why must you wear wigs for a YouTube channel? I feel people should appreciate you more cos of the natural hair. I used to feel offended but not anymore. Am comfortable in my hair and skin. No one can come between my hair and I.

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    6. thepearlylife Avatar

      People are the worst. Lool when will they realize that it’s not your
      hair! I’ve gotten the “your hair won’t grow” and “you’ll look ugly” and “it’s just a phase” comments. I think most of the people I know now prefer my hair to weaves. If I had listened I would have never gone natural! Do you boo 💕 and your hair is cute!!

      Pearl || https://thepearlylife.wordpress.com

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      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Thanks so much dear. I get good compliments now too but there are still some who don’t like it and I don’t care. I have become a muse to so many friends now. Thanks so much for stopping by.

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    7. Stacy Avatar

      I am a naturalists and I have had my hair natural for the past two years. All those negative comments do come-by once in a while but sooner or later i suppose people will go back to the natural way after realizing the effects of so many chemicals mixed in your hair. Keep up with the natural hair. Rock it on girl.

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      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        I do tell them that would happen in the nearest future. Natural hair always rock, #teamnatural. Chemicals are just too damaging and I didn’t have good experience with it when my hair was relaxed. Thanks for reading.

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        1. Stacy Avatar

          Welcome. With all new chemicals being mixed up this days, it is unhealthy to mix them all up in your hair. #teamnatural rocks.

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    8. Nifemi🇳🇬 Avatar
      Nifemi🇳🇬

      Your hair is lovely girl 😍 I was told keeping natural hair is time wasting that it won’t grow and I reply even if it won’t grow I can for any reason relax my hair….those chemicals are not healthy for our hair….#teamnaturalhair

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    9. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

      That’s a great reply….. I believe natural hair will become a beauty standard for black women very soon.

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    10. Nifemi🇳🇬 Avatar
      Nifemi🇳🇬

      Yeah ✌

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    11. creativelydeliciouswithmichele Avatar

      Oh who cares what other people think! Your beautiful, and I love your natural hair!! If you love it that’s all that matters. You go with your natural beautiful hair!!

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      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Awwwn, thanks so much honey.

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    12. Books N Me Avatar

      Oh, people say all sort of shit. Never mind, it is their job.

      But your hair look cool. So, don’t let them affect yourself.

      Much Love! 💐

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      1. Books N Me Avatar

        By them, I meant people. 😁

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      2. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Thanks so much, Suraj…. People can really make you feel bad.

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    13. zeebala Avatar

      Some people just have too much negativity in them that was what made me relax my hair the first time but am back to the natural hair community again and I am loving my hair journey. I fact some people tell me they can’t make my hair because it’s too thick and full. So I currently make my natural hair myself, I put it in mini twists for 2wks. Never let anyone make you feel bad about your natural hair. Natural hair is beautiful and unique for everyone.💞💞

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      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Is been 3 months since I went to a salon, most hairstylists don’t know how to deal with natural hair, I end up with a of lot breakage whenever I go to a salon. Thanks so much.

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        1. zeebala Avatar

          U are welcome. My dear the best thing is just to learn how to do some quick and easy hairstyles urself to save urself from salon stress☺

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        2. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

          Yes is the best, am good at Bantu knots, twists and lot of updos

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    14. Just Brittany Moments Avatar

      This is so unfortunate that us naturals have to go through this! It’s our choice to do what we want with hair, body, etc. I was the first one in my family to go natural and my grandmother did NOT approve! She said “I just think that is so ugly” which hurt but she isn’t used to people of our culture wearing their hair in its natural state. If it’s not “normal” based on society than it’s not right. Right now I’m wearing protective styles until I can get my hair back to health. Then I’ll be wearing out my hair once again! 😁 Thanks for sharing!

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      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Most people still see natural hair has abnormal and relaxed hair has society standard….. I agree with you, whatever you do to your skin and hair should be your own decision. Please get your hair back to health and rock with your head high up.

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        1. Just Brittany Moments Avatar

          I sure will! Because I miss wearing my hair out! 😌

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    15. xvenussx Avatar
      xvenussx

      Yeah, people, nothing can surprise me anymore when it comes to them because they can be hella rude. I’m sorry to see you went through this, but as you said, we shouldn’t care about some other people’s opinions. And since I just said what I said, I don’t know if my words mean anything, but I really think your hair looks cute. And you look pretty, it’s nice to see that there are women who are embracing their natural beauty.

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      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Your words mean a lot, people can be rude and even make you feel bad, it is left to you to decide whether you want those words to get to you or not. Thanks so much for the lovely compliment.

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    16. andysmerdon Avatar

      I’m surprised all the time at how rude people can be sometimes. Life is so much easier if we can maintain a little respect for each other. I also think your hair is excellent. Have a great weekend 🙂

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      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Respect is the key and everyone has the right to decide whatever they want. Thanks so much, Andy. Have a great weekend too.

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        1. andysmerdon Avatar

          Cheers, have fun 🙂

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    17. stellascreativity&styles Avatar

      Its actually your hair, you don’t have yo care about what other people say. You look absolutely beautiful in your pictures 💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝

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      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Yes, I don’t have too. Thanks for the compliment honey, you are great.

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    18. IntrinsicMane Avatar

      I absolutely LOVE your hair girl it’s beautiful and so are you! It never amazes me how rude people can be towards your OWN decisions. If had a nickel each time I was told that my hair would look good if I straightened my hair out or that I was wasting my time I would be rich! I loved this post girly!

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      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Thanks so much for the compliment. Straightened hair mentality is still over and the advice can be so annoying. Am always like this “If you are not happy with my hair, I am”.

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    19. preppypinkpiglet Avatar

      Ignore the negativity…you are beautiful and your hair is lovely ❤

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    20. riffatwajidblogs Avatar

      Thanks for kind words

      Liked by 2 people

    21. Rabia @ fairlyliterary Avatar

      I’ve unfortunately heard most of these things and I’m at a point now where I don’t give a flying fart what anyone had to say about my natural hair.

      Liked by 2 people

      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Yeah, that’s how it should be girl. Thanks for reading.

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        1. Rabia @ fairlyliterary Avatar

          Yes but unfortunately not always. No problem

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    22. shaunz Avatar
      shaunz

      I’m unbothered by their opinion, i keep it moving cause if i love my hair, that’s all that matters. Love your fro girl 😉 xo

      Liked by 2 people

      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Yeah, you don’t have to be bothered, that’s what makes you unique…. Thanks so much

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        1. shaunz Avatar
          shaunz

          Exactly, people will always have something to say, so let them..haha..You’re welcome love xo

          Liked by 2 people

    23. goodyonabudget Avatar

      I love your hair! As I always say, whatever grows out of your head is always beautiful. Those people are all wrong.

      Liked by 2 people

      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Thanks tons…. Yes, they are wrong but they won’t admit they are.

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    24. anaiyak Avatar

      I believe all natural hair is beautiful whether it is kinky, curly, thick or any hair type. I find it interesting that the people who speak negative light in naturalist are the main people who want to become natural themselves but are afraid to take the next steps. We must stand tall, wear our hair with pride, embrace being natural and smile. We have to show them the true beautiful of being natural.
      #TeamNatural

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      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Yeah, I agree with you, some of them are just envious and too scared to make the movement.
        At this point, we shouldn’t allow anyone to make us feel bad about our hair.

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        1. anaiyak Avatar

          Yes, indeed.

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    25. Peoniesandrubies Avatar

      I can so relate to this post. It’s unfortunate that some people find it difficult to respect the choices of others. I shared some weird comments I’ve received about my natural hair on my blog recently https://peoniesandrubies.wordpress.com/2016/07/29/weird-reactions-i-have-received-to-my-natural-hair/. Please keep enjoying your hair and don’t let anybody discourage you. 👍

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      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        I agree with you it is really unfortunate…. It’s my hair, lemme do whatever I want with it.
        Thanks so much, I will keep enjoying it…. Will check out the post now.

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    26. relaxedriri Avatar

      I am so glad you are pro-choice and not relaxer bashing. I am relaxed myself but I am loving your confidence – stay beautiful.

      Liked by 3 people

      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Thanks dear… Anyone can do whatsoever they want with their hair. People should learn to respect that. Thanks for stopping by.

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    27. Anna Avatar
      Anna

      Your hair is wonderful and people are assholes. It’s fantastic that you share! Stay awesome!

      Liked by 2 people

      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Thanks so much, Anna

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    28. justbeingnessa Avatar

      This is a nice blog post. Okay. I am not a naturalist but I totally relate. I fix extensions but I also love my natural hair. It isn’t ebony black like a lot of people. It’s brown accentuated with gold like the rest of my sisters. So sometimes when I wash and roll it, a lot of people asks me if I fixed weavon? There are some naturalists who look down on people who fix extensions because they feel they aren’t bold enough to go natural while there are others who feel going all natural is crazy. I love reading books so much and I get people tease me saying ‘dont I have better things to do” or “you ll probably go mad with reading”. So the thing is, its not about being a naturalists, a ‘artificialist’ a feminist, any type of “list” you can think about, its about respecting people choices and who they are. Its about keeping an open mind.

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      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        I fix extensions once in a while to…… Some people can’t just mind their business and let’s you enjoy your decision. Thanks for your comment, I really appreciate it.

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        1. justbeingnessa Avatar

          Don’t mind them. Ha! No pro

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    29. Rima Avatar

      Allah have given you such a beautiful and lovely hair.Ignore negative things.Be happy in your life.I really loved this post.You are looking lovely with this hair.

      Liked by 2 people

      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Thanks so much Rima, this really brought a smile to my face. Be happy too.

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    30. Siphosetu Avatar

      I wish my hair was as thick as yours. Not even sure if growing it will make much difference hence I’m almost always rocking short hair and braids.

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      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Awwwn….. Try castor oil, it can help you thicken it a bit more.

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    31. ActressInReality Avatar

      Wow… you know, for years I’ve been ashamed of my natural curly hair because i didnt want to be the little nappy headed kid in my predominant white school. Now, working with and being around my own culture more I have grown to love my hair, and so does everyone else!

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      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        I’m glad you have grown to accept your hair and you are fortunate to be surrounded with people that love it.

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    32. Pamela Spears-Bradford Avatar
      Pamela Spears-Bradford

      I decided to go natural because I swim and attend water aerobics for my exercise regiment. This decision is to stay away from pressing and curling my hair 2- 3 times a week. I perform those exercises 3- 4 times a week. Well, I am 62 years old and along with going natural my hair graying! My hair is baby soft and baby fine. My afro style is near non existent due to the texture of my hair and using a pic makes my scalp hurt! So I went to sister locks! That was a tragedy too! My hair would only lock some what by adding human kinky bulk hair to it. Finding bulk kinky afro hair in gray is real tough too! My husband also constantly complaining about my hair as well. “You look like a plucked chicken!”. My daughter, “Mom, the texture of YOUR hair can’t handle locks! “You’re going to go bald!” ” Why are they neater? “Your edges are all over the place!” “I would get those type of styles if my would stay smooth!”. I’ve received tons of compliment about my hair from strangers but my family is a total different story!

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    33. Cresta's Confessions Avatar

      What an inspiration you are for still sporting your natural hair despite all this! I hope to also one day have the courage ! Please check out my blog also if you have the time x

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      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Thanks so much dear. It wasn’t easy hearing your loved ones condemning your choice, it hurts but that shouldn’t affect your decisions…. I’m sure u will find d courage soon.

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        1. Cresta's Confessions Avatar

          No problem, thanks for the kind words! 💋

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    34. Olusegun Avatar

      Ralph Waldo Emerson in his book, “The Spiritual Laws” said, my laws are the highest laws.
      So, we should never condemn whatever we allow or believe in and we should never give in to the laws of others to rule us!
      Kudos Adeyoola!

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      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Thanks for sharing this law, I’m hearing it for the first time. I will always remember this law.

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    35. Amber Glow Avatar
      Amber Glow

      Oh Merlin, people can be so mean! People need to learn to appreciate others! I used to get unflattering comments about my short stature, and it used to bother me until my teacher taught me to love myself the way I am.
      So, pay them no mind, I think you’re beautiful just the way you are!

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      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Yes, you are point, Amber. I pay no attention to them. Thanks so much for your kind words.

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    36. amkhabeer Avatar

      Number 12 is so common; people expect you to turn into a pro make up artist when you have natural or short hair!

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    37. cafeavectwali Avatar
      cafeavectwali

      You have gorgeous thick hair! Going natural is the best decision to make. It urks me to hear another lady say “Natural hair doesn’t suit me” How could what God gave you NOT suit you?! That’s ridiculous! I guess going natural really needs mental preparation for some people because if you’re not confident, you will find yourself going back to the creamy crack.

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      1. doingitnaturalblog Avatar

        Thanks so much dear…… People can’t just watch their mouth….. I agree with you, going natural sometimes need mental preparation, some people can be so mean with their words. I ain’t doing the creamy crack thing no more

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